Most of the people have their secret desires that they feel awkward to share with others. BDSM is one such fantasy that many would like to try out, but due to lack of clarity about the field, they are unable to proceed in the right way. It may feel like a weird interest, but medical science shows that people who practice BDSM are psychologically just as healthy as general people.
BDSM requires trust between the couples as it usually involves blindfolds and tied down positions which offer no clue of what the person is going to do next. Due to this reason, there should be a set of rules that should be followed. These rules will ensure that the experience is safe and enjoyable for everyone.
Clear the consent
Before both parties involved in the experience, it is important to take consent from both for what is about to happen. Clear out the things firsthand so that nothing new gets added up when someone is tied down. This will assure that both members are doing this at will and are comfortable with getting blindfolded or tied down.
Use safe words and signals
Setting up a safe word and signal to hold down any exciting activities that can go beyond the limits will control the overexcitement. Some activities can become erotic or dangerous when they are done suddenly without any consent. A safeword should make a clear statement to the other person to stop. Using “stop” can just be taken as a roleplay in BDSM, which is why you need a different word that can alert you and your partner when things get off-limits.
Clear out the don’ts
BDSM itself is an experience that many couples do not want to try out due to the tension it can build. Those who are trying it are already taking a new step, and one should not hesitate to clear out what is not allowed during the experience. Do not feel discouraged from clearing out your limits and what makes you uncomfortable.
Learn about the accessories
BDSM involves a lot of props, including handcuffs, blindfolds, and tying ropes. Before you begin using them, learn about the method of using and safety of the accessories. Even when you are using the ropes, know about the knots you can use to avoid any tangled up situation. It is suggested that you keep a pair of scissors to cut down the ropes in case your partners get stuck in a compromising position.
Know your body
BDSM puts a lot of strain to the body and can cause nerve and tissue damage to the more vulnerable parts of the body. The amount of tension and pain that one can take should be way below the levels of damaging pain limits. Do not forget the intention of BDSM is not to hurt your partner. Do not take any severe actions like tying the wrists too tightly that it cuts off the circulation or an uncomfortable situation that can cause muscle damage.